Remembering Pishi: I’ve lost a role model, confidante and second mother

  On the 24th day of my pandemic isolation, I learned my Pishi, my auntie, had died in her home in Kolkata. The news was not wholly unexpected – she had been ill and suffering for many months. But nonetheless, a dread bore down on me so hard that it made me wonder if I had contracted the virus. How would I ever go home … Continue reading Remembering Pishi: I’ve lost a role model, confidante and second mother

Memories of Durga Pujo and a very different Kolkata

 

The gods created Durga with 10 arms to carry a weapon with each to slay the devil king.

 

 

 

 

I grew up in a Kolkata that is vastly different than the one today. My childhood memories are not of afternoons spent in South City’s sprawling food court eating burgers or watching movies in IMAX theaters.

In my youth, Kolkata fell frequently into darkness during incessant power cuts and my brother and I grew desperate to escape the thick, hot air of my grandfather’s house. We played cricket on the streets and ate phuchka at the New Alipur park. I saw the movie “Yaadon ki Baaraat” at least a dozen times just to get out of the sun, sit under a fan and listen to my favorite Bollywood song, “Chura Liya Hai Tumne.” That was the only way to hear it unless a neighborhood paan and bidi stall decided to blast it with a mic.

Adda was a thing. I mean, really a thing, and we often accompanied Ma on evening jaunts to visit friends and relatives. I lived through food rations and water shortages. I hung from crowded buses hoping my slip-on shoes would not slip off. Back then, only the uber-wealthy owned cars. My father never did; not on his professorial salary at the Indian Statistical Institute.

Life seemed hard compared to the modern conveniences of what middle class Kolkatans have now. We had little in the way of consumer goods or comfort. We slept on hard beds and without air-conditioning, we awoke drenched every morning, our pores opened wide and cleaned by air wetter than a damp towel. I dreamed of a day when we would no longer have to beg my uncle, then a merchant marine, to bring us back Kit-Kats from his adventures overseas. Or when I wouldn’t have to think of creative ways to stretch the waistline on the one pair of jeans I had left, as though I could defy childhood growth.

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Hiatus over. I’m back with a heartbreaking story from Florida

I haven’t written in a while. I’ve been busy. In the months since my last post, I quit my job at CNN, moved to Gainesville, Florida, and began teaching writing and reporting classes at the University of Florida. Life changing, for sure. Now that I am a bit more settled, I plan to resume this blog once again. Hopefully, it will get a shiny, new … Continue reading Hiatus over. I’m back with a heartbreaking story from Florida

As you watch the royal wedding…

For many weeks, we’ve been saturated with news of the Royal Wedding. This time, there’s a higher interest in some of my circles because Meghan Markle is an American commoner and more importantly, a woman of color. Saturday, millions will tune in to watch the spectacle. CNN and other major media outlets have devoted a whole lot of energy and resources to covering this story. … Continue reading As you watch the royal wedding…

Sherry Johnson is fighting to end child marriage.

Yes, child marriage still happens in America

Few people perceive America as being a land where child marriage occurs. But it does. I did not know what a persistent problem it was until I came upon Sherry Johnson, who was raped repeatedly at 8, had a baby at 10 and was forced to marry one of her rapists at 11. It happened in Florida. My homeland is India, which leads the world … Continue reading Yes, child marriage still happens in America

Yeah, we were bummed but we soldiered on at Georgia

This morning, the University of Georgia felt post-apocalyptic. The day after disaster, a lot of folks were regretting too many beers and mason jar glasses of vino verde as they tried to make sense of their team’s unraveling. How did Georgia blow its first chance since 1980 to win the national college football championship? But we soldiered on. Even though most of campus showed no signs of life, … Continue reading Yeah, we were bummed but we soldiered on at Georgia

My dog Gizmo is among the many good things in my life.

Hello, 2018…

…I am glad you are here. Finally. I have been waiting for you to arrive for a very long time. 2017 was not kind to me. It was probably the most difficult year since 2001. That was the year that I witnessed massive death and destruction after an earthquake in India and months later, the world changed forever with the September 11 attacks. In between, … Continue reading Hello, 2018…

Khizr Khan has a message on Veterans Day

I felt proud when I first saw Khizr Khan on the stage of the Democratic National Convention last year. Not because of his politics but because of his courage. He lost a son in Iraq and because of that, he felt compelled to remind Americans of the greatness of this country. Of the rights and dignities afforded to all of us in the Constitution. I … Continue reading Khizr Khan has a message on Veterans Day